Do you struggle with telling your kids you’ll be done with work in 5 more minutes, but don’t stop working for at least another hour? Maybe you have a hard time just stopping to give yourself a break, time for a healthy lunch or workout.
Before I made this switch for myself, it was all too common to find me working from 9am-9pm, if not longer. I had a clear vision of what I wanted my life and my business to look like. I had it written out on giant post-it paper and was willing to work hard for it, no matter the agony.
Except one day the “agony” came in the form of my 7year old son Sam coming in the office, as he often had before, and asking if I would be done with my email soon (goes to show how often he had heard me say that)because he wanted to spend time with me.
I felt my heart constrict and I held back tears of remorse as I gave one of my tried and true answers, ” Yep, just finishing this one up.”
Do I need to tell you that I didn’t “finish up” anytime soon? It was well past bedtime when I made it to my sons’ room to find them all asleep.
I went back to my room crying about how I was a liar to my kids- and maybe I was being harsh on myself – but regardless of the fact that I was working hard on my business for my family, I was, in fact, lying to them and I was robbing them of their time with me.
That was 6 months ago.
This past Monday, Rick and I went bike riding at 11:30 am – 12:30 pm with our 18 month old, Charlie X, riding in the baby trailer. We live in the Appalachian Trail in NY and have some beautiful local lakes and paths. On Tuesday, Sam and I went biking on the Mid-Hudson Walkway across the Hudson River. Sam had never been on it before and was both giddy with excitement and nervousness about the bridge standing in high winds.
The past 6 months have been filled with moments seized, instead of opportunities lost.
We went on a 2 week road trip, from NY to Dallas; read more here on my featured contributor post on She Owns It.com :http://sheownsit.com/5-must-haves-take-your-business-on-road/ . We’ve had couple’s breakfasts, mommy-and-me lunches, and even started volunteering at our church.
If you’re worried the answer is to sleep less or settle for making less money, you can let out a sigh of relief. (I love sleep and I’m making more money than before.)
The answer is surprisingly simple.
I sat down with my vision board and wrote out a daily schedule based on the life I wanted to create, not based on my circumstances at that time.
While the answer is simple, to actually attain the results takes discipline, accountability and structure. For someone who used to ‘wing it”, this was a tall order, which is why I’m offering a free training, with time for some live coaching in the next couple of weeks.
I’m still working on the details for date and time, but since this session will not be recorded, it will probably be at 8 or 9PM EST. If you’re interested, stay tuned for information next week or respond to this email.
You know – I have to ask…
Have you ever struggled as a parent, trying to run a profitable business without missing out on time with your child?
Whether in business or in life…
Have you given up something that you didn’t have time for and regretted it OR sacrificed some conveniences to make time for a passion?
I want to hear your story – please leave a comment below and add as much detail as you can.
Remember- you are not alone. There are thousands others who struggle with work life balance. You never know who might resonate with your story or even words of affirmation.
So join the discussion; I appreciate you contributing here!